Behavorial Issues in Toddlers

Your toddler is throwing a tantrum and pushing your buttons left and right, often it is expected and natural. Actually, studies show that toddlers who were very easy and did not push boundaries or throw many tantrums, often had more acting out as teenagers. Seemingly what was not explored in the terrible 2’s or 3’s, might come out with gusto as a teenager.

So, the goal as a parent is not to stop your toddler from saying no, crying, being angry, frustrated and demanding, but to be a teacher and guide for their exploration into their needs, wants, boundaries and relationships. Providing a consistent daily rhythm (not necessarily a schedule by the clock) and consistent communication will be the best foundation for their exploration.

Consistency of rhythm, reflective communication, and sticking to it when you say no…or yes, will help them feel safe and respected. When toddlers feel safe and respected, they will internalize that on their journey. Once it’s internalized they will be able to express respect to others. There are sooooo many parenting styles, but underneath them all, in my many years of working with kids and families, I know these three principles will help them come out on the other side of the intensity of toddler-hood as people you will enjoy spending time with and will enjoy spending time with you.

If you’d like to learn more on how to apply these three principles to your family, contact me for a free consultation.